The love between Twin Flames is the most incredible love imaginable, even stronger than soul mates. It can be so intense it is frightening, and sometimes twins will try to run away from it. But gradually you realize you are part of each other, and can't really be separated. You can live separate lives, in the outer world, even have relationships with others, but in your heart you know the truth, that you belong together, and will be together. You have a feeling in your heart that together you are One.
Each Twin Flame couple has their own unique relationship dynamics, but there are some commonalities with other Twin Flames, too. There are many signs that indicate the existence of a Twin Flame relationship. These are the ones I know of, and which I have experienced:
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An overwhelming sense of love and attraction...Right from the beginning, and continuing
A sense of completion that goes beyond words. Definitely
A magnetism to the other stronger than anything you have ever experienced... Absolutely, from the start
You will complement one another...Yes, even though we are opposites in some ways, we have so much in common.
The ability to literally feel one another whether you are with or without your partner...Yes, this happens all the time
A feeling that you are so close you just might feel related - like a brother or a sister...No, more like a husband and wife
A complete and total breakdown of your lives as you knew them upon finding one another... Yes, both of our worlds have been literally turned upside down
power to touch the other without physical means from great distances... Yes
Over the course of your life you may have dreams of a "mystery man/woman." I have, I'm not sure if he has.
Synchronicities will be abundant. You may find yourselves calling, emailing and texting one another at the exact same time... This happens all the time.
You may feel your heart wanting to jump out of your chest at the sound of his or her voice...Yes, every time I hear his voice on Skype, or see the Skype alert pop up with his name, or see Facebook notifications with something he is doing, my heart skips a beat. The first time he ever called me, I literally danced around the room like a little kid at Christmas, clapping my hands for joy. The first time we were on web cam, we couldn't stop smiling and giggling like school children.
The ability to feel each others emotions, whether they be happy or sad ones, from great distances...Yes, we often can sense how the other is feeling.
The ability to contact one another through meditation and have the same experience together... yes
The desire to be with one another no matter what the obstacle blocking your way...Yes
The ability to dream of your partner in their current state and verify the accuracy of that dream, later... Hasn't happened yet
You may notice the ability to collapse time as you knew it. Upon your coming together, time itself will cease to exist...yes
When you and your partner are out and about, you may notice the eyes of everyone are upon you. Your love for one another will shine so greatly, that it is not uncommon for the eyes of everyone to be upon the two of you...Hasn't happened yet. We can only wish.
You may find yourselves completing each others sentences, sometimes even before you have the chance to begin them..All the time.
Upon connecting with your twin flame or soulmate, you may find that you are practically mirror images of one another and that you may want to even run from your partner because of the things you see in yourself from the reflection of his/her eyes...yes, our smile is similar, we laugh the same, my nose is like his, except smaller
If you currently live apart, (even at great distances) you may notice the power to be sexually intimate without ever even physically touching the other...Yes, and it totally shocked me the first time it happened.
You may notice that any of your bad habits, ie. smoking, drinking, or whatever they be, will adversely effect you. Even in your diet, food that you used to be able to eat, will have to be set aside... this is beginning to happen to me now.
You may find that certain dates in your lives, ie. birthdays or the even the day you met, will fit perfectly into the Fibonacci Sequence or the number 11 11... this happens all the time to me.
A realization that this isn't the first time the two of you have met... Past life experiences! Not sure
The individual twins become more as one, without losing their unique identities... This is happening now.
There may be obstacles to overcome but there are no barriers between twin flames. The relationship is a totally open one...Yes
You may meet through unusual circumstances that were totally unplanned and unexpected...Completely out of the blue! Unplanned and unexpected. Neither of us had any idea this would happen to us.
The two of you know without doubt that you have been brought together for some spiritual purpose... This seems to be the case.It feels as though you have been awakened since your reunion occurred. You feel more alive than you've ever felt...Yes, we both feel more alive, more vibrant, and happier. He said I have given him more confidence, too.
You give to the other and never think of receiving in return. Giving is the nature of the twin flame relationship and you feel the rewards in your giving... Yes, we give just because we love.
There is a strong sense you will be together for all eternity... even when you pass on in this life... We do feel that way.
The relationship is immediate, as though no time had been lost since you were last together... Not very long. We met on facebook in Jan 2010, he friended me in February, and we were head-over-heels in love by April or May.
There is a very sacred sense of intimacy and feeling of divinely inspired wholeness that one finds within a twin soul relationship. It is not by accident nor is it without purpose. Rather, it is a magnificent and loving part of our Creator’s plan for us... It feels that way to both of us.
You still have karma with your twin from previous lives, but the two of you resolve it all with total forgiveness and unconditional love...Working on it. He is much more patient than I am, and very forgiving.
There is nothing hidden between the two of you. You don't hide secrets. You are truthful and respectful to one another... Yes.
Your conversations seem to go on forever. There is nothing you won't discuss with your twin flame... We can talk for hours on end, about anything and everything.
There is no need to build walls or barriers between one another from pain or fear the other causes. Your twin will treat you like someone sacred... I trust him completely.
The two of you are inseparable. No matter if there are distances between you physically there is no distance for the twin souls... How true!
Neither one of you are dependent on the other for your sense of self. You know who you are with or without your twin flame in the physical... True
Trust, patience and acceptance of each other’s weaknesses happen automatically.You will never use that weakness against your twin in anger or hurt... This is true
There is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you’ve ever experienced before.You feel a deep sense of sacredness and unity with God that you’ve have never known before... We merge completely.
There are no restrictions within the relationship. All is freedom without the need for ownership or control... true, we don't have to control each other.
You will feel inspired to create and your twin flame inspires your creativity...Yes, I've gone back to my poetry writing.
You do not compete with one another nor do you pretend to be other than who you are. You love each other for their individuality and uniqueness. You understand that some things are better left to your twin's strengths rather than competing...Yes
You recognize there is a deeper spirituality that you manifest and will find your higher self. You will gain knowledge of what your souls higher purpose is and will serve for that purpose. .. We are learning together.In spite of your sameness, there is no doubt you feel a sense of completion through the other... Yes, so true
You will recognize you two are Godmates. You will know you are one with everything in the universe and beyond...we are learning
For more information, check out the link to Collapsing Duality's web page. Also, feel free to read my own Twin Flame Story, if you haven't already had a chance to do so.
I have had all of these experiences. I know who my twin flame is and have for many years. I know this is our time, but my twin is stuck in a negative, dark program, and is running, denying, and destroying us. He has the gift of insight and wisdom, but doesn't utilize it in his own life. He is skeptic of all this feel good new age stuff, and scared to death of real, true, mature love. We've had a total of 6 years on our journey so far, but the last 4 has been him pulling away more and more; the last 2 we've hardly had anything to do with each other, and he just thinks "we need to move on; this isn't working". It is in fact working, but it's his negative programming and perspective. He does not even see all the gifts, energy, and power we have, but rather continues to be defensive, focused on what challenges him about me, and run the other way. I have been exhausting myself for almost the entire 6 years.. giving, giving, and giving some more to heal him and bring him into the light (this is my strength). It might sound like maybe this guy isn't my twin flame, but I assure you he is! So, I'm just sharing this in case anyone might know how to break through a very strong, negatively programmed ego of not wanting joy and happiness! I've tried everything I can think of, including trying to give up myself. But, even that doesn't work, and within 2 wks to a month, my strength of love takes back over again and forces me to try again. If I could just put him to sleep, to have time to reprogram his subconscious from his wounds, and raise his vibration.. I'd probably be fine. But I'm dealing with THE MOST stubborn and persistent man EVER. Might I mention he's a Gemini! UGH! Any advice? I want our union to be complete, as I strongly feel it should be before 12/21/2012!!
Not sure if you are here anymore, Kat, but if you are, or for anyone else having this problem, I do have a couple of suggestions that have worked for me. There is a Facebook group called Soulmate and Twin Flames Union, and the group leader, Birgit Andersen, has Sunday night meditations to bring your Twin closer to you, unblock the energy between you, etc. One that has helped with my Twin and me is a meditation for Twin Flame Harmony. There are also some wonderful meditations on You Tube. The main thing that is needed is grounding and balancing, the more you can do that for yourself, the better it will help with your Twin. Anything positive we do for ourselves will mirror to our Twin.
Now, this is the Sacred Twin Flame Harmony Consciousness Meditation:
You can light a candle (or two for Twins), use soft music, or whatever preparation you prefer. When you are ready, say these words: I ask my soul to contact my God Spark in 12th Dimension, then go 12 chakras down into the earth for grounding and balancing. Pause a minute or two, then say, I now become ONE with Twin Sacred Harmony Consciousness. I AM ONE. Then, just sit quietly for 30 minutes or longer, however you prefer. You may also visualize the Violet Flame as it burns up all negativity and transforms it to positive golden energy. You may also visualize AA Michael with his sword, cutting karmic cords. The energy will be good for 24 hours, and you may get inspiration from Facebook, magazines, music, or other ways. You may also have communication with your Twin, possibly even in telepathy. This meditation can be used as often as you feel it is needed. I use it anytime my Twin and I have a conflict, or if I sense that he is having problems in his life. :)
hii Kat. Oh my god this is the same story I have. Did you have any progress? He too is a Gemini :(. I know this post is very old but I couldnt help it when I saw that the exact same thing happened with me . I dont know what to do. He is not budging. Please reply if you see this msg.
Silla, if you look, you can find all kinds of contradictory opinions and advice from so-called 'experts' such as Keesha Washington. Twin Flames simply know their connection, from their hearts, and there doesn't have to be any special mission, either. It's all about LOVE.
I don't claim to be an expert, by any means, but I do know the connection with my Twin. He does, too. If you prefer to accept Keesha's definition, then, we match the profile she wrote about: 12 years difference in age, two different countries, and two different (but similar) cultures. But, really, it's just something we know, and feel.
My personal opinion about this is that when people ask the question you are asking, I have to wonder if they've really found their Twin, because, like I said, Twins just know. I also think sometimes people are hoping they haven't found their Twin because it is a very challenging relationship, often with many obstacles and conflicts built into it, that we must deal with in our own ways. Sometimes, people can't handle it, and they run. Sometimes, they give up completely, and go looking for a less challenging soul mate relationship. But, in their hearts, they will know, and the bond between Twins will never end. You can't really run away from this LOVE.
Hi, I'm new and signed up just because I saw this thread and somehow it seemed i should reply :)
Just like each person has their own unique journey, I think each set of twins has their own unique situation. As helpful as it is to go through the lists of how to know (and I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't found those lists!), at some point you just trust that you know, and you just have to trust your own process and go with it.
FYI I met my twin in the physical 5 years ago, but didn't recognize it til almost 2 years ago. There was no doubt after my prince woke the sleeping princess with a kiss on 11-11-10.
Problem is, I am happily married. So, it's interesting. Lots of learning to trust, patience, and it has forced me to self-reflect and learn and research A LOT. He has been my rock, without even knowing it.
If we had been able to be together earlier, I don't think we could have handled it — it would have been too much and something would have exploded! LOL Mostly I had to learn to deal with and get used to the energy.
As I know you know, there is so much, more than you can write about, things others wouldn't really understand, and you can't describe this to someone who hasn't experienced it. You really can't put it into words. It's just a comfort to know that others have touched the experience, that you are not totally crazy.
In terms of service, when I read that one early on, it hit me — we met when someone recommended he work on a construction project (our mutual professional interest) I was doing, that has become a school where some kids with some really tough situations are being given love and support. We both have a love of kids. It's something that turned out way better, even financially, than could ever be expected. So, we did this together not even knowing what we were doing.
Despite that, or maybe because of it, I don't think anyone needs to stress about what their "service" is — that will come naturally, and it might be as simple as just loving and growing and anchoring all that. Or, you might never even realize what you gave to someone else.
It's all about giving up control and just trusting it, even though it makes no sense according to our current world paradigm and anyone else will think you're crazy.
I just know I'm the luckiest girl in the world because I know he exists. And all will unfold as it should if I trust the process.
I sincerely believe that I have found my Twin Soul. My baby sister (23) calls her a female version of me.
I have never felt such an intense draw to another human in my life. We share many 11s in our lives.
Both of us have an 11 life path. Our combined birth years are 11. Our combined birthdays are 11. We are both artistic people and share so much in the way of passions and beliefs.
We lost contact for about 7 years. we reconnected about a year ago. But it wasn't till she broke up with the person she was dting that we really began talking. This was on Valentines day. 2/14/13;2013. For 4 months we talked on a regular basis, and she began to open up more. She would text me sometimes in the morning, sometimes when she got off work late at night. She would send me pics of her and her pets, of her and a friends little daughter (which she is very close to). At times we would text each other throughout the day, all day.
Then one day she had to go to a music festival she was working. I didn't her from her for almost 2 weeks. I logged onto facebook to see her profile pic with another man with his arms around her. I asked if she was dating him and she nonchalantly said yes. Almost as if I was supposed to be happy for her like one of her regular friends, and then got upset when I reminded her that I had never hid my intentions for her, my feelings. Though I told her I would always be here for her. We haven't spoken much since then. Her boyfriend and her got into an argument, with him accusing her of cheating on him. So to passify him she removed my from her friends on facebook. Funny thing is, that morning, before I went to my facebook page, I knew. I knew that for some reason she ran from me. We have talked briefly since then.
I wanted to, I tried to walk away, but a voice deep inside of me told me no, to be patient and not give up. I told her that I loved her. Not sure if that was smart. But she tried to reason it away. Still she has not removed me from her life completely. I just keep my distance out of respect and love. My love, feelings and emotions, the intensity of which I have never know has been somewhat overwhelming for me. As a Southern man raised to not cry and keep my emotions in check, I found that I could not keep from crying just from thinking of her. And as hard as I try I can not stop thinking of her. I hardly shed a tear when my mother passed, and I loved her above all else. My thoughts keep me up for hours on end at night. I have struggled with the pain of losing this woman for a month now and it did not seem to be getting any better. But deep inside I knew she was to be mine. I knew that we were 2 halves of the same soul.
Due to my repeatedly seeing the numbers of 11 and 3 or the numerical equivalent of them for the past year and a half, I started researching numerology. This led me to check out soul mates. I ran across the term of Twin soul and everything it said fit to a tee!
I found out that she was the runner and that we did seem to be 2 halves of the same soul. After reading all of this I was swept with an eerie calm, a peace. I came to know that she was to be mine. As a friend had said, she was just not yet on the same level spiritually with me. Even so, knowing that this guy she is seeing is a bit of a dick, that we are twin souls, I still have that lingering fear. For I know all is ruled by free will. I still have that fear that she will chose to stay with this guy. For dealing with the fear of something you know will fail and may not really care about is nothing to dealing with the fear of something you truly want failing.
I fear that I may have to go on for years before she and I are together, knowing who and what she is. Knowing that now, giving my heart to another would be all but impossible.
I try and tell myself that she is in his life for a purpose. Maybe the development of his soul. Maybe she has to be hurt once more before she is ready to embrace the love I have to offer. But for the most part I am more at ease. At least more so than I have ever been.
I have also used numerology to guide my actions and help figure out the future. I have used a version of the Table of Mars to find out that she and I are in the 3rd phase of a twin soul relationship, and that our fourth phase of reunion is but weeks away. I have been given dates for us moving in together, my proposal and our marriage. All adding up to 11 and or 22.
I do not know if this method is genuine, as only time will tell. but I still search for a way to free her from her fear and doubt, to free her from the burden of yet another doomed relationship so that we can move on with our lives together. I search for a way for her to recognize and accept our connection, to not run anymore. It hurts me emotionally knowing the impending pain she may be in for when this relationship ends. I love her so that I would do anything to protect her from the pain if I could.
I could easily say that I love her more than my own life, but since she is a part of me it would be accurate to say that I truly love her as deeply as I love myself. If only she would believe how I felt and wouldn't keep running or keep me at arms length while still luring me in.
Thanks for listening. It is easy for other loved ones to tire of hearing these things. Most are very logical people who say that my only solution is to be with another woman and forget about her. Any tips on how I should progress forward, how I can help her develop spiritually and get on my level. How can I encourage us without creating animosity and negativity?