Making a change in one's life can be difficult. Why is this so? Nature is change, the universe is change. If there wasn't change, then could there be existence itself?
Think on this for some... No actually don't think!
I heard or read recently a phrase that struck me, and eventually led to this post.
"Don't focus on perfection, only focus on progress".
This struck a cord in me, because when I have a new goal or direction to take personally, I have a tendency to overthink things. I want the plan to be perfect, I want the surrounding circumstances perfect, and I wait and think.
Here recently I have come to realize that plans should be variable.
My advice to you. Once a goal is set, say a fitness goal for example. To create a plan that involves running 5 miles 3 times out of the week after living on Doritos and Mountain Dew for the past 6 months is obviously not a good plan.
I would go even further in saying that setting any performance goal is a waste of time if you have been sedentary for a while.
For any new personal/lifestyle change, the priority should be on developing the daily habit first. Consistency of action comes first. Once consistency is attained, performance can then be measured. Then an accurate plan can be formulated.
Don't set a goal and attempt to train to lose 40 pounds in 6 months.
TRAIN TO ENGRAVE THE DAILY HABIT OF TRAINING FIRST
For example do 10 minutes of activity a day consistently, then expand the time.
Stop setting yourself up to fail by focusing/expecting on the results before a path has been dug into daily routine that provides a mean for the goal to be achieved. Program the subconscious first through slow/consistent implementation of a daily habit of activity
Create the habit first, then grow from there.
A similar approach can be applied when pursuing other endeavors as well.
An art project, taking classes after work, anything. Develop the habit of applying time and focus consistently. Create the habit of attention first. Success will eventually appear.
Maybe not all of it, but if you "pay attention" habitually to the task, you will have two things now.
One, some percentage of the final goal will be attained, and now, through the process, some understanding of how to create new habits for yourself will also be gained. Rinse, repeat.
From Seneca (stoic philosopher): "Many of our blessings bring bane to us; for memory recalls the tortures of fear, while foresight anticipates them. The present alone can make no man wretched."
Stop planning and thinking, control the present.
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